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about charisma how to evolve charisma
what is charisma
the great quentin crisp said charisma is
the ability to influence without using
logic that's a wonderful definition of
charisma i think the ability to persuade
and influence through the nature of your
character not simply for rational
argument not simply through materialism
but by accessing some inner intuitive
call it what you will prana chi
mojo
essence potency unlock your true nature
most
theologies religions folkloric
traditions believe that within us there
is a kind of latent twin an unrealized
unlived life a great force of energy
within you that is unlocked perhaps when
you're calling upon god you're not
calling upon some abstract force but
rather some inner potency that has
become lost locked and jaded by
continually living in the
cultural ephemera of our time you know
that you continually like oh hello i am
me i'm sat here
going from place to place living out
your rational life never reflecting on
the fact that we live happily amidst the
infinite that there are great unused
forces within you now i reckon that the
secret to charisma is being able to be
present in fact people speak frequently
don't they of presence this person has a
real presence you know that michael
jordan in that documentary about him you
know
last dance one in one of the final
episodes a commentator said what michael
jordan's great gift was it was not
related to athleticism although of
course anyone that reaches that kind of
level has to have those attributes he
said that he was more of a mystic he had
the ability to remain absolutely in the
present neither is charisma necessarily
about
physical
beauty
it needn't be an aesthetic thing have
you not met people in your life that you
think wow there's just something about
this person that i am drawn to of course
there is chemistry too not all of us
will find the same people charismatic
the same way as we don't all have good
sexual chemistry or good convivial
friendship type chemistry between one
another there are certain ways that we
interlock regardless though if you are
interested in charisma what i reckon you
are really interested in is becoming
your authentic self becoming the person
you're intended to be now obviously that
could be a lifelong journey but if you
let it take your whole life then where
are you going to be using this charisma
in the afterlife in the soil
so how i reckon you unlock this charisma
is firstly
how much of your time are you spending
living in fear or living in your
intellectual landscape locked into your
mind locked into inner reflection that's
no good i think to be charismatic in
conversation with other people like say
for me when i was more interested in
like celebrity oriented things i was
going on talk shows a lot what i'd
really try and do is listen to the
person that i was communicating with or
now if i'm in a meeting or if i'm in a
social situation and i still do suffer
from some social anxiety one of the ways
i overcome it is by making a decision to
really genuinely listen to the person
that i'm communicating with and let go
absolutely of the idea of getting
something from that exchange i let go of
the idea that i'll get approval or
applaud it or
anything from that exchange i try to
channel myself into a kind of state of
how can i be of service to this person
that's when i remember to do it
sometimes of course like anybody i'm
trapped up
in the sort of miasma of my own
self-centeredness and all i'm thinking
is i want something i'm insecure that
kind of claptrap that goes on the stack
of the mind those constant interruptions
that we're tethered to i don't think
necessarily inadvertently because we
live don't we in this shash of our uh
conventional systems our busy cities
burrowing continually into our mind
webbing us to the ordinary never
allowing us to flourish but when i'm my
better self when i'm my higher self i
think who is this person that's before
me think of the limitless mysteries in
them access the point within them that's
the same as my own awareness when you're
talking to another human being i've had
it suggested that i took that you ought
look into their left eye that their
creative mind is the left side you know
all of that stuff that is obviously
massively reductive because neurology is
incredibly complex but the idea of
focusing on an eye looking at a person
don't do it psychotically don't stare at
a person continually some people don't
like that you don't like it do you jen
you don't like too much eye contact so
just choose it look away for a little
bit while you're talking then bang a
little bit of eye contact they'd have a
little around bang little bit of eye
contact
look at people
listen to them open your heart when
you're communicating to them think about
your own breath think about being
present well don't think about stay with
your own breath be present in the moment
and listen to them absolutely consider
when you're in relationship with another
person that you are two individuals by
some miracle alive in this moment
temporarily only briefly a
flash of light and consciousness in and
apparently dark universe although i
would say that darkness is embedded with
and stitched with all kinds of light not
as attainable to us with our limited
sensory instruments regardless here
on this realm on this plane in this
moment in this time if you can be
uncluttered from your own mental state
if you can focus on another person if
you cannot be dominated by your own
fears this essentially means you need to
spend time being
working on yourself ensuring that you
deal with your own neurosis psychosis
and
your fears and your anxiety so that you
actually can be present in the moment
one be present two listen three
think only of being of service to that
person that's three really great tips
for being more
charismatic charisma
the ability to influence without logic
or is it simply being present in the
moment allowing yourself to be present
allowing the invisible forces that are
somewhat difficult to comprehend whether
that's consciousness awareness itself
or more more
i know esoteric and difficult to explain
energetic phenomena that surely travel
between us recently i was in the river
with my wife we found a weeping willow
tree and it formed a hallowed and
beautiful private space curtained from
the world we sat on a paddle board
together in intimacy and privacy on the
same paddleboard and whenever a boat
would go by of course the waves of the
river would move us and rock us and i
said to her surely there are more subtle
forms of energy than air and water that
are interrupted and disrupted when a
person comes into a room and a person
conveys their energy sometimes i imagine
i used to do this a lot when i used to
go into early american talk shows i
remember doing it with conan and conan
was always very conan o'brien was always
very nice to me when i was talk show i
was told once by a brilliant teacher
imagine an arc of light between your
heart and the heart of the other person
imagine yourself absolutely connected to
that person consider the deep truth that
we are all one that we are awareness
looking back at awareness that all
material things will through entropy and
time move apart but this great awareness
this subtle energy
this fundamental condition of the
universe awareness itself will remain
there is a bridge between us this is how
i would approach the matter of becoming
more charismatic or more present
